"Men only want one thing from me" is a sentence women have said more than once. The lords of creation aren't relationship material or just want sex. It's quick and easy, and there's no hassle. The great love isn't a must, and marriage and kids aren't needed. That is exactly how a great many men think, which makes life hard for women. Because great sex alone doesn't make a relationship or a marriage. Consequently, women have to present themselves differently, play hard to get and beat these dear men at their own game.

Not sexy, but classy

It's not uncommon for girls at parties to be picked up one after another. But why is that?

There can be several reasons:

• Too revealing
• Too drunk
• Too direct and suggestive
• Some girls turn into a trophy that gets passed around
• Rather great sex than no man at all

If you make it that easy for men, you lose your dignity along with it. To prevent that, composure is the order of the day. If a man hits on a woman like there's no tomorrow, he gets turned down right away. Innuendo is fended off, and "your place or mine?" gets a no. You'd see plenty of men look surprised. Because women aren't that easy to get into bed after all.

Men only want one thing from me
Men only want one thing from me

Better buttoned-up than revealing

When is a man a man? Usually when he can have lots of women. A relationship and marriage are out of the question anyway. And the woman herself is to blame. If she presented herself as buttoned-up rather than revealing, the man's hands would be tied. And maybe then a relationship would come first. So better a date with no happy ending than a fling in bed. Otherwise you soon aren't worth much to men. That calls for raising your value, and that starts with a nice getting-to-know-you with no ulterior motives. The clothing is casual and not designed to catch a man. If a man then bites, he might be the right one.

Wait and see

Anyone who wants a steady relationship isn't looking for a man for one night. "Men only want one thing from me" then takes a back seat. If you carry yourself with style and play hard to get, another meeting may follow. He wants to know more, without thinking about sex right away. And she shouldn't come on too strong. Saying you want to get married and have kids can send any man running. Choose the golden middle path and let the man of your dreams come to you. Without seduction taking center stage. That way he doesn't lose respect for her and is interested in more. Relationships develop slowly and gradually, and what becomes of it is in the woman's hands. But it really shouldn't be a one-night stand.