Women love security, want to get married, and a house full of kids wouldn't be bad either. But men don't want marriage and kids, and if possible they want only sex. And that comes with open relationships and the odd uncomplicated fling here and there, for free. The big love story just gets in the way. Born as hunters and gatherers, they don't want to settle down when it comes to women. As a result, the woman gets the short end of the stick, especially if she has picked the wrong guy.

Two worlds collide

For many men, a relationship marks the start of a new chapter in life. Suddenly the much-loved guys' nights no longer count, and the focus shifts straight to the wedding. That's when the handcuffs go on. As if that weren't enough, kids are the nail in the coffin for men. They tie you down, they're loud, and they cost time, money and nerves. So why would he commit when his freedom is so much better? He can do whatever he wants, and being accountable to anyone is far from his mind. So quick sex is the option of choice, and marriage takes a back seat for now. Two worlds collide, and the two of you probably aren't meant for each other.

  • Men don't want marriage and kids

Why are men like this?

It's easy to sum up in a few quick points:

• Some were born macho or raised that way
• Mentality plays a role
• They don't want to be robbed of their freedom
• Children mean a lifelong responsibility
• Divorce hurts and can be expensive

And even for the great love of their life, many men won't give up their old life. As a result, women often have a hard time. Because they don't fall for the decent, nice guy next door. It has to be the macho and the cheater. That's exactly what makes the whole undertaking so hard.

A woman has to live with it

Men don't want marriage and kids - that's common knowledge. They're then seen as wimps who lose their masculinity. Who turns their head for a man pushing a stroller, anyway? For many men, being married with a brood of kids is a nightmare. The convertible would have to go, and the carefully designed downtown loft would be history, because it is anything but kid-friendly. So many men prefer to stay single and sample a little here and there. It isn't forbidden, after all, and the harbor of marriage is given a wide berth. Who wants to end up with kids, kitchen and housework? Besides, they say women with kids let themselves go in marriage. A problem like that is not something a "guy" ties around his own leg. The topic can wait and gets filed away. As a result, marriages are slowly but surely dying out, and children are becoming an expensive pleasure and a rarity. The man holds all of this in his hands, since you can't force him.