The male instinct - yesterday and today

Does a woman simply have to awaken a man's hunting instinct to win him over? Is it even true that men want to hunt and that this is the driving force behind everything they do and want?

Men want to hunt
Men want to hunt

A short excursion into science

We all know this situation: she and he arrive at a party together. One quick glance is enough for her to survey the entire room; she knows exactly that three of her girlfriends are there, her brother-in-law and her husband's buddies. In the same time, he has spotted the buffet, the bar or the cute brunette standing somewhere between the two. Just one of them, never all at once.

That really is not a cliché. She has a wide field of vision, evolutionarily wired to spot danger early, even when it only shows up at the edge of her sight. He, on the other hand, has the hunter's gaze. His field of vision is narrower, but his focus is firm, never losing sight of the target. The hunter's gaze.

Him - a victim of his urges?

There are plenty of guides out there, in print, on blogs, streamed, that want to help a woman in love make a man's hunting instinct work for her. Make yourself interesting to him and play hard to get. Be the pretty, shy deer, and at the same time be clever enough to turn from the hunted into the hunter at just the right moment.

But how does a woman best go about catching his attention and making herself desirable prey? Stroke his ego, give him validation, let him feel that he is something special to you. That awakens the drive in him. Men want to hunt, always!

Are we still sitting in trees?

If men want to hunt and the recipe were that simple, everything would always be perfectly clear. But it isn't! After all, it has been quite a while since we climbed down from the trees. In fact, both women and men have changed since then.

Culture and civilization and, not least, women's emancipation have clearly changed things between the sexes.

Today, a man above all wants to score a catch, collect trophies and see his status reflected back at him. The hunt itself is no longer that important, and in some cases even completely out of place - from both the men's and the women's perspective. By now, it is generally the woman who decides about love and relationships anyway.

Confidence and self-esteem matter much more these days and are genuinely sexy. The shy deer who plays hard to get is a thing of the past. Of course, the modern woman may send signals, she may flirt, but she is also more than welcome to be direct about what's going on, what she wants and what she's hoping for. No, she doesn't just get to, she absolutely should! Because only then does she go from being the prey of the days when we still sat in trees to a valued partner beyond any trophy collection.

Why men love the feeling of conquest:

  • Recognition.
  • Conquest.
  • Ownership.
  • Success.
  • Prestige.